I love pop culture, but I’m honestly getting tired of the romanticization of couples that should not be romanticized. If you have no clue what I’m talking about, read on.
In light of Suicide Squad coming out this week, I’ve been seeing a lot of people “shipping” the Joker and Harley Quinn. Now I really want to give these people the benefit of the doubt and assume that they don’t actually know the kind of relationship these two characters share. It’s entirely possible if like me, you aren’t an avid comic book reader.
But then again, I see people who have read the comic books defending the Joker and their relationship, labelling it as a “fun” dynamic. I get that it’s fiction, but that doesn’t deviate from the fact that it’s still an abusive relationship. You shouldn’t be defending an abusive relationship, fictional or not.
Maybe the reason our generation sucks at relationships (or so I’ve heard), is because we idolize couples that feel the need to be consumed by each other, that have a love/hate, angsty relationship where they’re together today, and not the next.
What happened to idolizing couples like Monica & Chandler? What happened to people loving the idea of a healthy and fulfilling relationship? When did we start looking up to the likes of Chuck & Blair – in which Blair canonically says that Chuck makes her feel like a weak little girl. Why are they one of the most popular couples in pop culture? I genuinely don’t get it.
What you idolize and what you help promote, leads to young people having a misconstructed perception of a relationship too. I’ve seen girls admitting they want a guy like Chuck Bass because thanks to pop culture, Chuck Bass, who is canonically an ass through most of the series, ends up being idolized as the “perfect guy”.
Now, as Suicide Squad prepares to make its premiere, I can only hope that the movie accurately portrays the Joker and Harley Quinn’s relationship for what it is. It’s still not too late to ask yourself just why you’re shipping this abusive relationship.
And if you want to know more about the relationship these two share, I encourage you to follow THIS LINK (the author shares a lot of great examples from the comics as well).